I just spoke to brother M on facebook, he says that my mum has accepted that Brother N has Asperger Syndrome and needs help. At last! It is a pity that my parents didn't accept years ago that I needed help, if they had then I might have been able to cope, but they wouldn't allow outsiders in back then, now there is no in, just my mum and my youngest brother and sister, my mum is apparently still in denial about sister O needing help though.